JIM R. HALOPOFF
U.S.A. PATRIOT

 

 

THIS IS MY SWEETIE PIE
DURING THE KOREAN
WAR.  I MET HIM ONCE HE
GOT AN  HONORABLE
DISCHARGE.  I WAS WORK-
ING FOR REVLON CORPORATION AT THE TIME AND HE HAD RETURNED FROM THE SERVICE TO REGAIN HIS SENIORITY THERE.  I RETURNED TO CHAFFEY COLLEGE AFTER WORKING THERE FOR FOUR YEARS AS I HAD ALREADY MADE PLANS.  WHILE BACK AT CHAFFEY, SEVERAL SCHOOL CLUBS ASKED IF THEY COULD SPONSOR ME FOR HOMECOMING QUEEN.  I ACCEPTED.  I WAS IN THE MIDDLE OF THE CAMPAIGN WHEN THE DEAN OF WOMEN CALLED ME INTO HER OFFICE.  SHE SAID, "MY DEAR, YOU CANNOT RUN FOR HOMECOMING QUEEN."  I ASKED WHY AND SHE SAID I DIDN'T HAVE A B+ AVERAGE.  I TOLD HER THAT I INTENDED TO RUN ANYWAY BECAUSE ALL OF MY FRIENDS IN SCHOOL WANTED ME TO BE A CANDIDATE FOR HOMECOMING QUEEN.  SHE LOOKED AT ME WITH DISBELIEF THAT I HAD DEFIED HER AUTHORITY.  WE CONTINUED WITH MY CAMPAIGN AND IT WAS A LOT OF FUN.  I DECIDED TO WEAR AN AQUA DRESS I HAD BOUGHT TO WEAR AS A BRIDESMAID IN A WEDDING AS I HAD NO MONEY TO BUY A NEW ONE.  MY FOLKS DIDN'T OWN A CAR BUT I HAD FAITH THAT SOMEONE SOMEWHERE WOULD LEND ME ONE.  MY FRIEND CAROL DUCK LIVED ACROSS THE STREET FROM THE SCHOOL AND SHE TALKED HER FATHER INTO BORROWING A BRIGHT RED 1957 CHEVROLET CONVERTIBLE CORVETTE FOR ME.  I WAS SURPRISED AND VERY GRATEFULTO THE DUCK FAMILY FOR THEIR GENEROSITY.  TOM DUCK WAS SOME KIND OF AN UNDERWRITER AND HE KNEW A LOT OF INFLUENTIAL PEOPLE IN ONTARIO, CA. I MIGHT ADD THAT CAROL WAS ONE OF MY BRIDESMAIDS.

MY HUSBAND, WHO WAS MY BOYFRIEND AT THE TIME, MISSED ME A LOT AND I MISSED HIM AS WELL.  HE WANTED ME TO COME BACK TO LOS ANGELES AND LIVE THERE AGAIN.  IT WAS TOUGH FOR ME TO MAKE A DECISION AS I WANTED TO AT LEAST FINISH ONE MORE YEAR.  MY FIRST YEAR HAD BEEN CUT SHORT WHEN I BECAME PARALYZED ON MY RIGHT SIDE.  THAT IS HOW I ENDED UP IN LOS ANGELES.  MY MARRIED SISTER LIVED THERE AND SHE TOOK ME TO HER DOCTOR WHO GAVE ME VITAMIN  B12 SHOTS.  DR. VIXIE WAS A REPUTABLE DOCTOR.  THANKS TO HIM, I BECAME HEALTHY AGAIN.  I ALSO RUBBED MY RIGHT SIDE WITH RUE IN RUBBING ALCOHOL.  THAT WAS A HOME REMEDY A LADY IN LOS ANGELES TOLD ME ABOUT.  ANYWAY,  I RETURNED TO LOS ANGELES ONCE AGAIN AND WENT TO WORK FOR LOUIS FACTOR AT MAX FACTOR IN HOLLYWOOD, CA.

BEFORE I LEFT CHAFFEY FOR LOS ANGELES, MY FRIENDS THERE WANTED TO GIVE ME A GOING- AWAY PARTY.  WE BORROWED A RECREATION BUILDING NEXT TO WHERE MY FOLKS LIVED WITHOUT COST TO ANYONE.  MOST OF THE FOOTBALL PLAYERS WERE THERE AS WELL AS THE SCHOOL CLUBS WHO HAD SPONSORED ME FOR HOMECOMING QUEEN.  I DIDN'T QUITE MAKE HOMECOMING QUEEN, BUT THAT WAS FINE WITH ME.  I WAS STILL YOUNG AND OTHER VENTURES AND ADVENTURES WERE UP AHEAD. WE HAD GREAT MUSIC AND WE DANCED THE NIGHT AWAY.  WE HAD PUNCH AND OTHER SOFT DRINKS WITH SNACKS. AT ONE POINT, I TOLD THE KIDS I MIGHT CHANGE MY MIND ABOUT GOING BACKTO LOS ANGELES.  THEY WERE HAPPY AND SAID THAT THEY WOULD THROW A "WELCOMING PARTY" FOR ME.  IT WAS SAD LEAVING MY SUPPORTIVE FRIENDS.  WE HAD SO MUCH FUN PLAYING IN THE SNOW AT MT. BALDY.  ONE OF THE GALS ALSO TOOK US TO HER RANCH WHERE HER FOLKS HAD A LAKE ON THE PROPERTY WHERE WE WENT BOATING.  AND, HOW ABOUT THOSE BARN DANCES WE HAD AT ANOTHER RANCH IN CHINO? OTHER FRIENDS HAD RANCHES IN WHAT IS NOW RANCHO CUCAMONGA.
I KNEW I WAS LEAVING BEHIND A GREAT LIFE IN THE COUNTRY, BUT I ALSO KNEW MY SWEETIE PIE WAS WAITING FOR ME IN THE "BIG CITY." AS FOR THE COUNTRY, THERE'S VERY LITTLE LEFT.

WHILE WORKING AS A SECRETARY TO LOUIS FACTOR, THE SON OF MAX FACTOR,  I RAN INTO EDDIE CARO AND HIS WIFE MARY WHO WERE ALSO WORKING THERE.  EDDIE AND I HAD BOTH BEEN IN A MOVIE EARLIER IN THE 1950S. ( I AM STARTING TO USE DATES NOW AS I CANNOT GET AWAY FROM IT). WE ALL USED TO FILM ON WEEKENDS AS WE HELD JOBS DURING THE WEEK.  THAT'S WHAT YOU DID IF YOU DIDN'T HAVE WEALTHY PARENTS.  WHEN THE CAROS AND I SAW EACH OTHER AT MAX FACTOR, WE HUGGED ONE ANOTHER.  IT WAS FUN TO RUN INTO FRIENDS IN HOLLYWOOD. AT THAT TIME, THERE WERE A LOT OF PEOPLE EATING AT RESTAURANTS ON HOLLYWOOD BOULEVARD WHO WANTED TO BE IN THE MOVIES.  I RECALL SITTING AT THE COUNTER BY MYSELF AT ONE OF SUCH RESTAURANTS THAT ALSO HAD BOOTHS FOR GROUPS.
THE FELLOW TO MY IMMEDIATE RIGHT STARTED TALKING TO ME AND ASKED IF I WAS AN ACTRESS.  I SAID, "DON'T TELL ME YOU'RE A  PRODUCER?"  THAT STOPPED HIM FROM CONTINUING HIS CONVERSATION WITH ME.  THERE WERE SO MANY IMPOSTERS IN HOLLYWOOD THAT I DIDN'T WANT TO WASTE MY TIME.  BESIDES, I WAS VERY BUSY PREPARING FOR MY WEDDING.  MANY TIMES, THERE WERE YOUNGSTERS WAITING OUTSIDE THE MAX FACTOR SALON ENTRANCE AS I WAS LEAVING THE BUILDING FOR LUNCH.  INVARIABLY, THEY WOULD ASK ME IF I WAS A MOVIE STAR AND IF THEY COULD HAVE MY AUTOGRAPH.  I WOULD SMILE AND COMPLIED AND SIGNED MY TEMPORARY SHOW BIZ NAME ROSE DUVAL. OH WELL.

I MOSTLY USED TO ENJOY EATING AT DRUGSTORE COUNTERS FOR ECONOMIC REASONS AND THEIR FOOD WAS GREAT.  ONE DAY, I WAS EATING AT A DRUGSTORE COUNTER ACROSS FROM MAX FACTOR ON HOLLYWOOD BOULEVARD AND HIGHLAND.  MY FRIEND DORIS BELL (WHO WAS ALSO IN MY WEDDING PARTY) WAS WITH ME AS SHE ALSO WORKED AT MAX FACTOR.  DORIS WAS SITTING ON MY RIGHT AND A MAN SAT NEXT TO HER RIGHT.  THE MAN ASKED DORIS IF SHE COULD TRADE PLACES WITH ME SO THAT HE COULD TALK TO ME.  WHEN WE TRADED SEATS, THE MAN TOLD ME HIS NAME WAS CHARLIE DAVIS AND THAT HE WAS A TALENT AGENT.  HE SAID HIS OFFICE WAS NEXT TO MAX FACTOR AND THAT HE WAS LOOKING FOR AN UNKNOWN TO PLAY THE FEMALE LEAD IN "MARDI GRAS."  HE SAID THAT I WAS THE FRENCH TYPE AND THAT HE WANTED TO TALK TO ME SOME MORE IN HIS OFFICE.  HE SAID IF I DIDN'T BELIEVE HIM TO BRING ALONG MY FRIEND DORIS.  WE WENT THERE AFTER WORK AND FOUND OUT HE WAS LEGITIMATE AFTER A FEW VISITS WHEN HE WANTED TO SIGN ME UP AS A CLIENT.  HE ALSO WANTED ME TO TAKE SOME PICTURES WITH CERTAIN PEOPLE THAT WERE ALREADY POPULAR.  I DIDN'T WANT TO TAKE PICTURES WITH THE PEOPLE HE SHOWED ME IN A PHOTOGRAPH AND  I TOLD HIM SO.  HE SAID THAT MARILYN MONROE HAD TAKEN PICTURES WITH THEM.  I SAID THAT I WAS NOT MARILYN MONROE.  I HAD ALREADY READ A LOT ABOUT MARILYN MONROE AND HER DOINGS IN HOLLYWOOD AND THAT WAS NOT ME.  I HAVE ALWAYS  BEEN A STABLE PERSON AND CAN SEPARATE THE STAGE FROM REALITY.  CHARLIE SAID HE COULD GET OTHER SHOW BIZ PEOPLE TO TAKE PICTURES WITH ME TO PROMOTE ME.  BY THIS TIME, WE WERE PLANNING OUR WEDDING AND TOLD MY SWEETIE THAT I MIGHT HAVE TO GO TO NEW ORLEANS AND BE IN A MOVIE ENTITLED "MARDI GRAS."  HE SAID, "IT'S EITHER THAT OR ME!" I REALLY DIDN'T HAVE TO PONDER MUCH - ONE CHOICE WAS TEMPORARY AND IFFY, WHILE THE OTHER WAS PERMANENT HAPPINESS WITH SOMEONE I REALLY LOVED.  AS IT TURNED OUT, CHRISTINE CARERE GOT TO PLAY THE LEADING FEMALE ROLE OPPOSITE PAT BOONE IN MARDI GRAS. I AM PROUD, HOWEVER, OF HAVING BEEN GIVEN THAT CHANCE.

WE GOT MARRIED IN THE LATE 1950S AT HOLLYWOOD CONGREGATIONAL CHURCH ON HOLLYWOOD BOULEVARD WHICH WAS TWO DOORS WEST OF THE GRAUMAN CHINESE THEATRE AND ABOUT TWO BLOCKS FROM MY JOB.  MY APARTMENT WAS ABOVE A PRODUCTION COMPANY BUILDING ON MELROSE AND LA BREA.  I WOULD TAKE THE LA BREA BUS THAT DROPPED ME OFF AT HOLLYWOOD AND HIGHLAND WHERE I WALKED ONE-QUARTER  BLOCK TO MAX FACTOR.  OUR RECEPTION RIGHT AFTER OUR WEDDING, WAS JUST AROUND THE CORNER WEST OF THE CHURCH AT THE HOLLYWOOD WOMEN'S CLUB.  I BOUGHT MY WEDDING DRESS AT A BOUTIQUE BRIDAL SHOP ON NORTH HIGHLAND AVENUE NEAR FRANKLIN AVENUE.  AS FOR MY WEDDING RING, MONEY WAS STILL SHORT ON OUR BUDGET.  I MENTIONED THIS TO MY FRIEND DORIS BELL WITHOUT MUCH WORRY AND SHE SAID, "WHY DON'T YOU BUY MY WEDDING RING WITH ITS ENGAGEMENT RING?"  I ASKED HER ABOUT THE PRICE AND SHE SAID IT WOULD ONLY COST ME  $25.00.  I COULDN'T BELIEVE WHAT I WAS HEARING.  BECAUSE DORIS WAS DIVORCED, SHE HAD FALLEN ON HARD TIMES AND HAD PAWNED HER DIAMOND RINGS FOR EXACTLY $25.00 AND DIDN'T HAVE THE MONEY TO PAY BACK THE PAWN SHOP.  I OFFERED HER MORE MONEY FOR THEM WHERE I COULD MAKE PAYMENTS AND SHE REFUSED MY OFFER.  DORIS AND I WALKED OVER TO THE PAWN SHOP LOCATED IN THE MIDDLE OF HOLLYWOOD BOULEVARD AND RETRIEVED THE RINGS.  I COMBINED ALL OF THE DIAMONDS AND HAD SLAVICKS JEWELERS MAKE ONE RING SHAPED LIKE A ROSE AND THE OTHER ONE WAS PLAIN.  THE PICTURES OUR PHOTOGRAPHER TOOK WERE TERRIBLE AND, OF COURSE, I DIDN'T BUY ANY.  A WEDDING PICTURE OF MY SWEETIE AND ME TAKEN BY MY BROWNIE CAMERA  IN FRONT OF THE CHURCH TURNED OUT MUCH BETTER. THE CHURCH IS NOW THE CREDIT UNION FOR SAG.

I WAS VERY NERVOUS ON MY WEDDING DAY THAT I FORGOT EVERYTHING WE HAD REHEARSED.   WE KNEELED AND PREACHER BEARDSLEY PROCEEDED WITH THE CEREMONY.  I THOUGHT THE PREACHER WAS THROUGH AND  I STARTED TO GET UP.  MY HUSBAND QUICKLY PULLED ME DOWN.  I  GIGGLED AND COULDN'T STOP UNTIL WE WERE MARRIED.  THEN, I STARTED TO CRY WHILE WALKING DOWN THE ISLE ALL THE WAY TO THE OUTSIDE OF THE CHURCH.  THERE, I STARTED TO WONDER HOW MARRIED LIFE WOULD BE AND MANY OTHER THOUGHTS.  "OH MY GOODNESS, I THOUGHT.  WHAT HAVE I DONE?"   EVERYTHING FELL QUICKLY INTO PLACE AND I GOT USED TO IT.  LIFE FOR ME JUST GOT SWEETER AS TIME WENT ON.  IT'S THE BEST DECISION I EVER MADE BECAUSE I MARRIEDTHE RIGHT PERSON FOR ME.  OF COURSE, I DID INVESTIGATIVE WORK ON MY SWEETIE FIRST BEFORE I STEPPED INTO MARRIAGE AS I DIDN'T  WANT ANY SURPRISES.  THIS WAS DONE WHILE WE WERE DATING.  EVERY GIRL THAT WASN'T RAISED WITH HER INTENDED SHOULD DO THIS.  THERE ARE JUST TOO MANY BAD MARRIAGES AND DIVORCES BECAUSE PEOPLE DO NOT GET ALONG.  WHEN THERE ARE CHILDREN INVOLVED, THEIR LITTLE HEARTS GET BROKEN.  HOWEVER, I REALIZE THAT SOME MARRIAGES THAT HAVE EVERYTHING GOING FOR THEM CAN ALSO CRUMBLE AFTER AWHILE IF ONE PARTY CHANGES HIS/HER MIND AND IS NO LONGER INTERESTED IN THE OTHER PERSON.  MANY FACTORS PLAY A PART IN THIS.

GROWING UP, I FELT SO FORTUNATE THAT MY PARENTS NEVER GOT A DIVORCE.  I REALLY DON'T KNOW WHAT I WOULD HAVE DONE IF THEY HAD.  MAYBE MY FAMILY WAS CONSIDERED POOR, BUT I ALWAYS SAY, "IT'S NOT A SIN TO BE BORN POOR, BUT IT'S A SIN TO REMAIN POOR."
EDUCATION AND STEADY EMPLOYMENT WILL REMEDY THE SITUATION.  IF ONE CANNOT COMPLETE A COLLEGE EDUCATION DURING DAYTIME BECAUSE ONE NEEDS TO WORK, THEN ONE ATTENDS NIGHT CLASSES.  I STUDIED PARALEGAL COURSES AT NIGHT AT CAL STATE L.A. AND ALSO TOOK THE HARD CORE ECONOMICS/BUSINESS AND INTERNATIONAL ECONOMICS/BUSINESS MANAGEMENT COURSES AT LA VERNE UNIVERSITY. THAT WAS SOME YEARS LATER AS I COULD HAVE GRADUATED WHEN DR. RODNEY DAVIS WAS TEACHING THERE.    AT THAT POINT IN MY LIFE, I WAS REALLY INTERESTED IN LAW SCHOOL BUT FELT THERE WAS MORE TO LIFE THAN JUST SOLVING OTHER PEOPLES' PROBLEMS.  IF PEOPLE APPLIED THEIR SAAVY AND SOLVED THEIR PERSONAL AND BUSINESS PROBLEMS, THEN THEY WOULDN'T NEED AN ATTORNEY.

THIS BRINGS TO MIND WHEN I LEFT THE LEGAL DEPARTMENT AT A FINANCIAL INSTITUTION TO GO WORK IN A PRIVATE LAW FIRM IN BEVERLY HILLS FOR PAT BROWN'S ASSISTANT, WHO WAS A TAX ATTORNEY.  I HAD WORKED FOR THE TAX ATTORNEY WHEN HE WAS WORKING FOR ARCO AND WHEN I WAS ALREADY FREE-LANCING FOR VARIOUS LAW FIRMS.  HE SAID HE RE-HIRED ME IN BEVERLY HILLS BECAUSE OF ALL OF THE SECRETARIES HE HAD HIRED PREVIOUSLY, I WAS ABOUT THE ONLY ONE WHO COULD RAPIDLY READ BACK MY SHORTHAND TO HIM.  I WOULD SAY THAT I REALLY ENJOYED BEING A LEGAL SECRETARY AND LATER A PARALEGAL AS I LEARNED A LOT ABOUT LEGAL PROCEDURES AND, COUPLED WITH MY LEGAL COURSES, LEARNED SUBSTANTIVE LAW.  I LOVE GOING INTO A LAW LIBRARY TO DO RESEARCH FOR MY OWN LEGAL NEEDS.

I WAS DOING GREAT WITH MY OWN PARALEGAL BUSINESS FROM HOME AND ALSO TAKING CARE OF MY MOTHER UNTIL SHE NEEDED DIALYSIS THREE TIMES A WEEK.  THAT'S WHEN ONE TAKES THE BULL BY THE HORNS AND SAYS, "OKAY, IT'S TIME TO TAKE CARE OF THE MOST  IMPORTANT THINGS IN LIFE." OF COURSE, MY MOTHER REALLY NEEDED ME AND I WAS GLAD TO HELP.  MY HUSBAND WAS STILL IN GOOD HEALTH AND SO WAS I.  MY SWEETIE PIE WAS VERY HELPFUL THROUGHOUT THE ORDEAL.

 

 

 

 

 

 





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